Career or a Job? What about your Passion?

To have a career is defined as

an occupation or profession, especially one requiring special training, followed as one’s lifework.

Having a job is defined as

a piece of work, especially a specific task done as part of the routine of one’s occupation or for an agreed price.

Now I have to be honest, what does this mean to you or me? I am told I need to get a job in order to pay bills and sustain my living expense. I have also been told I need to find a career. I feel that we spend so much time telling each other that having just “just a job” is not good enough. That it is not leading you towards some sort of career. This is where I need to pause this type of thinking!!!

No matter what you are currently doing, it is an experience! Sometimes it’s not going to be fun and you might not see instant gratification from it right away but you will, promise. I struggle through this even now. I don’t expect to reflect on every single interaction with people through out the day. I think my head would explode if I did that. But I do think back on certain interactions with my customers, my bosses, and any other related interactions. I ask myself a series of questions:

  • What was the topic?
  • Was this the first time I heard about it?
  • If not, did the discussion of this topic reenforce knowledge on this topic?
  • Was I receptive to what was being discussed?

So WHY do I do this? I do it because I am passionate about learning. Regardless if I am working at just a job or in the field of my career, my passion is always present in learning.

Let’s define passion,

any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.

Passion is a deep emotion that we have to look for within ourselves. It is not something you can jut have an answer for. Our passions will change and that is okay. I know my did year to year. As I starting becoming more aware of what I was doing the opportunities I was receptive to I began to internalize those intense emotions and formulate an idea of what I was truly passionate about, enough to start the beginnings of a career.

I didn’t do this alone. I didn’t magically know how to identify these feelings let alone recognize them at times. And its okay we’re human. But it is no excuse to keep going and not doing something about it. Our emotions at work are the most important thing to keep on check! It can break or seal the deal! Keep that in mind!

Danielle Laporte created The Desire Map to help find your “Core Desired Feelings” another name for your passion. She has built a beautiful journey for you to take at your own pace. I have the physical book for when I feel the need to unplug from my devices and I have it in iBooks to read at anytime anywhere. It is sincerely one of the best journeys I have done, besides discover Yoga!!

In one of her opening pages she shares a quote,

Take a journey into the things which you are carrying, the known— not into the unknown—into what you already know:
your pleasures, your delights, your despairs, your sorrows.
Take a journey into that, that is all you have.
—Jaluddin Krishnamurti

Danielle starts hitting the ground running. You begin with a “Rapid Fire Session” then the next thing you know you’re being asked what the is the scent of joy? Ummmm what? I’ve never even thought about that!

Check out her site and the The Desire Map. Her program helped me redefine what I wanted to do about my past job, I was able to clearly create career goals, and take a step forward in the next chapter of my life.

The Desire Map

P.s. Give yourself some self-love ❤


Love & Soccer

In 2011 my dad started taking my sisters and I to New York Redbull games. He has always loved soccer. I remember going with him to friend’s houses to watch an important game. Then there were times we could actually go and experience the game at the stadium turned out to be a whole day event! Unfortunately we didn’t become soccer players to my dad’s hope instead we were avid swimmers. Nonetheless we enjoyed accompanying him. We loved watching his passion for the sport which then became part of mine.

My dad was able to score a couple tickets enough to invite my friends to come along each game. I was really excited because it was finally my crowd of friends and we were excited to watch soccer and cheering alongside with my dad. It went on like this for a couple months!

On  May 15, 2011  the New York Redbulls played against Chivas USA. Like usual our group was being rowdy in cheering for our team. We attracted the attention of a group of guys that were clearly avid fans as well. All of them were wearing NY Redbull jerseys. They came over and joined in with us. We were definitely louder as a larger group.

It was because of that encounter that I met Roman. He and I have been dating since then. We will celebrate our three years together this May 15, 2014. We have attended every game since, together.

I share this story with you because it is possible to find someone in moments that you least expect it. I often hear people mention they want to move out of NJ or the state they are in to experience and meet others. Quite often people are in desperate search of a significant other and fail to enjoy the very moment in which they are in. In not enjoying the moment you are experiencing and embracing the spontaneity of it you might end up missing out.

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”  ― Eleanor Roosevelt

This quote sums it up. Enjoy your experiences and take the time to meet new people, you will never know who you end up meeting!

Reflecting back on our story and how we’ve integrated the New York Redbulls into our lives, its made me think about my childhood with my dad. I am filled with happiness in having shared those moments with him and to continue sharing them with both my dad and Roman.

Thank you MLS for making this a great sport to connect with others! If anyone is up to join us for a game this season let me know the more the merrier! Here is a link to the view and download the schedule (any devices!) MLS Soccer

If you have had a similar experience in meeting someone new at any event feel free to share below. ❤

NY Red Bulls 2014 Jersey Launch

Thankful Holiday Exercise

This past Thanksgiving, I wanted my family to partake in my journey of reflection. I didn’t want to force or leave anyone out of the exercise if they felt uncomfortable participating. Instead I told them I would start it off by expressing my gratitude for having each one in my life. I wrote a “Thank-you” note for each person at the dinner table.

"Thank you" Cards

Gartner Studios “Card Crafting Line”

Every note was specific to each person yet broad enough that anyone else in the room could relate to each one and apply it to the same recipient or another person. Needless to say they were all teary-eyed by the end of the readings and my family thanked me for having surprised them with it.

This past week I was thinking about doing it again for Easter, on April 20. Only this time I would include a couple hershey kisses and colorful eggs! And because of the positive reaction I received from my family I would like to include my close friends as well.

I felt amazing after it. I did something for myself and others. It didn’t cost me that much, instead I would say it took more time to write what I wanted to express. That I found to be the challenging part although it was such a rewarding task.

I would encourage you to try it. Even if its done randomly and not around a holiday. You’ll love it!

Props to Sarah Kathaleen Peck’s Grace & Gratitude Course

And here is why…

Over the winter I participated in Sarah Kathleen Peck’s “Grace + Gratitude: a two week journey for the heart, mind, and soul.” I was very honest with her about not being able to do each task in the time frame of the class and her response was truly amazing and what I needed.

“I tried to design it so that if you were on a subway or in between classes, you could still read and enjoy the essays and stories, and just that would be a little trigger to start your thinking to open up during the day.”

I am doing this a little different this time around. I am going to be open and share my experiences. My goal is to continue this journey more then 14 days. And to also create a connection with my readers and make new friends!

Feel free to comment and/or answer the question.

What does gratitude mean to you? In what ways do you practice gratitude in your life right now?

To me, it means, to be aware of what you have and had and be thankful for it. Reflection plays an important role in gratitude. We must reflect about our experiences and interactions in order to understand the significance role it played in our life. I make connections with what I am doing or what is currently happening in my life and how I got to that point. It helps to remind myself of key people that I have encountered and befriended.

This is a recent phenomenon as I started to question why I do things or why I was feeling the way I was.

I believe actively practicing gratitude can be difficult and lost in the shuffle of life. For a while last year I was lost and couldn’t figure out where I was headed which caused me to ignore other areas of my life. I actually wasn’t sure what I was grateful for. It wasn’t till I did some soul searching and faced my fears. I’ll admit it did not happen right away! I made one of the biggest decisions in leaving my steady secure job at Apple. I had just celebrated my fifth year! But I needed to do it for myself. I craved something different plus my priorities had changed. Finishing my undergrad was #1 on my list. So I made the plunge.

This was my first holiday since I can last remember I did not work in retail. I was actually home and available to my family. It was the holidays and the family gatherings that brought me to this journey of self-reflection.

One of my responsibilities at Apple was to be a mentor and resource to my team. I truly believe you earn that right with your peers. It is not a role that can be simply handed to someone. Trust and rapport are critical components. Both traits I hope to gain with my fellow readers. In terms of being a resource for my readers, I will post readings, videos, music, or documents to share.

This blog is one way that I will be continuing my practice of gratitude in my life.